A beautiful, rainy DC evening
Los Angeles, CA
Cher at age thirteen — arrested for “borrowing” her mom’s car.
There are days that I cannot find the sun even though its right outside my goddamn window.
Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.
Isolation offered its own form of companionship: the reliable silence of her rooms, the steadfast tranquility of the evenings. The promise that she would find things where she put them, that there would be no interruption, no surprise. It greeted her at the end of each day and lay still with her at night.
"Welcome to the real world. It sucks. You’re gonna love it!"
[T[he political wife today is…a woman who facilitates her husband’s career by pursuing her own, earning the majority of the family income, managing the bulk of the parenting duties, freeing him to do what politicians do and performing in this way her own public service. Welcome, then, to the era of the breadwinning political wife, the high-achieving, six-figure spouse who through her energy and economic drive makes her husband’s career possible. Do not confuse her with an heiress. Her money is money she makes. And works hard for. Already, she is changing the culture of Washington, redefining what it means to be a supportive spouse, buying her way out of some traditional duties even as she picks and chooses the ones she will be part of. She may someday, through her success and industry, erase the noxious stereotype of the political wife altogether. But we still have a long way to go: If you think your work-life balance is tough, consider hers.
Or, badass bitches doing badass things
Salmon Forks, Montana, 1947
Photo: K.D. Swan / Source: National Archives
A study on masculinity and aggression from the University of South Florida found that innocuous – yet feminine – tasks could produce profound anxiety in men. As part of the study, a group of men were asked to perform a stereotypically feminine act – braiding hair in this case - while a control group braided rope. Following the act, the men were given the option to either solve a puzzle or punch a heavy bag. Not surprisingly, the men who performed the task that threatened their masculinity were far more likely to punch the bag; again, violence serving as a way to reestablish their masculine identity. A follow-up had both groups punch the bag after braiding either hair or rope; the men who braided the hair punched the bag much harder. A third experiment, all the participants braided hair, but were split into two groups: those who got to punch the bag afterwards and those who didn’t. The men who were prevented from punching the bag started to show acute signs of anxiety and distress from not being able to reconfirm their masculinity.
“The history of the typewriter is, as with the history of the personal computer after it, rife with collaboration, ingenuity, betrayal, setbacks, lucre, acrimony, misguided experimentation, and bickering white men.”
Salvador Dali and Coco Chanel.